How Not to Be an A-hole When…

…You’re Physically Uncomfortable And There’s Nothing You Can Do About It

Something a little lighter today…

Right now it’s hot where I live. Not planes-can’t-take-off hot like Phoenix earlier this summer, but still in the 90s. In a city that doesn’t put air conditioning in homes, and usually is more likely to see the 70s than the 80s even in the summer, this is kind of a big deal. Especially for people who hate the heat.

Like me. I hate the heat.

Hate. It.

I’ve always hated it. I’m not a huge fan of beach vacations. Hot yoga is not a thing I’d even entertain trying. Anything above 75 degrees generally pisses me off.

I work out in the mornings, so that plus a shower means every hot summer morning:

I actually snapped at my sister the other day simply because she told me it was going to be in the 90s this week. So I’ve been worrying about this heat wave not because I have an actual health concern (which many people do in this heat, and I’m definitely not dismissing their concerns) but because I don’t like being uncomfortable And I’ve (finally) realized something:

I’ve been using my hatred of heat to allow myself to be kind of an asshole about it.

And frankly it’s not helping. Sure, I guess it’s easier to just allow myself to act like a child because I’m hot. And I’m not suggesting that I — or anyone — needs to be cheery about being uncomfortable. I mean, the fact is that once it hits 80 outside, my bedroom is like:

But that does not give me or others the right to be assholes. Lots of people are uncomfortable, and are going to get more and more uncomfortable over the next week. That doesn’t mean we get to stop treating other people like humans.

So to those who hate the heat: I get it. I’m with you. But we can get through this without being assholes. We just have to take care of each other. Make sure we’re all drinking enough water. Getting breaks if we work at hot jobs (like kitchens or construction). Going to bed earlier. Checking on our neighbors. Moving a little slower. Holding our tongues when we just want to snap at someone because we can feel the sweat pooling in places it doesn’t belong.

And to those encountering people who hate the heat: I know, there’s no excuse for us to be assholes to you. But just know that its not you, and some of us are trying to be better.

You Might Also Like

… Debating Health Care for a Few Hundred Million People

…Announcing a Vice Presidential Candidate

… Someone You Care About Loses Someone (Part 1)

… Figuring Out How To Live Your Values (NFL Edition)

… Discussing Police Violence

…Interviewing a Nobel Peace Prize Winner

…Faced With A Horrible President (Part One of Infinity)

…Considering Whether to Participate in the Facebook Safety Check

… You Run an Airline


… You Want To Stop Talking About Race (and you’re white)

… It’s Father’s Day

…Handed a Flyer by a Stranger

…Leading a Professional Sports League

…Appearing on All In With Chris Hayes

…Contemplating Approaching a Woman You Don’t Know

…Comparing Pets and Children

…You’re A Man Encountering Me in Public

…Attending a Conference

…On Vacation

…Being A Person

… Determining Health Care for 350 Million People

… Discussing Emergencies

…Overseeing Disaster Response

… Using Facebook, Generally.

…Mocking Politicians

Leave a Reply